[anonymous] [text]

[cure_moonlight]

What do you do when...

Hn.

How do I put this...

No matter how hard you keep trying, everything turns out the wrong way?

Comments

[Anonymous text]

[last_lombax]

You pick yourself up and keep moving.

Re: [Anonymous text]

[cure_moonlight]

I have before and keep on doing so.

When cycles keep repeating themselves, however, and seem to only worsen each and every time...

Re: [Anonymous text]

[last_lombax]

There has to be something causing the cycle.

Re: [Anonymous text]

[cure_moonlight]

Yes... unfortunately, what that is...

It isn't something I can really help...

Re: [Anonymous text]

[last_lombax]

If you can't help it, fight against it anyway. Don't give up.

Re: [Anonymous text]

[cure_moonlight]

I've no intent of doing anything less.

I just wish ... there was anything I could do to stop it any other way.

It's a constant circle of despair, and it only seems to expand the more I fight. Yet all I can do is fight.

Re: [Anonymous text]

[last_lombax]

Fight with all your might. Take no prisoners. And force a change.

[Registers as Silverwing's D-Comm]

[scrapperzen]

Well, it may not be what you want to hear, but...

When your actions keep having the same results... it may be time to change your actions.

Science teaches that an experiment done the same way will always have the same results. It's change that induces change.

Of course, without knowing more, I can't offer any better advice...

[uberlikehermama]

... Umm... keep trying? I guess. How many times have you tried this?

Re: [Anonymous text]

[cure_moonlight]

Change...

Yes, figuring out how to do that has been the issue...

Re: [Registers as Silverwing's D-Comm]

[cure_moonlight]

Change, again...

Hmn.

I've not been given very many options, unfortunately...

[cure_moonlight]

...several.

[uberlikehermama]

... Are you trying the exact same thing, or is this just in general?

[cure_moonlight]

Circumstances have changed each time, but the result now still seems to be the same regardless...

[uberlikehermama]

So this is basically everything seeming like it's not going right, and not you just trying to stop one specific thing that keeps happening?

Re: [Registers as Silverwing's D-Comm]

[scrapperzen]

Very many options that you can see.

The worst situations are entered into because someone believes there's no other way to do things.

There are always other ways. Some are unpleasant, some are crazy, and some may seem counter-productive.

But there is always more to a situation than can be seen, and you're never as trapped as you think you are. Take a second, breathe, and look at what you're about to get yourself into. Then do the last thing that's expected of you.

Sometimes, the best way to win is not to play.

[anonymous]

[cure_moonlight]

A bit of both.

Re: [anonymous]

[uberlikehermama]

Okay! So for the thing you keep trying, you might want to try figuring out something else to try.

Re: [Registers as Silverwing's D-Comm]

[cure_moonlight]

I can't help but play.

All I've been able to do is keep fighting...

Re: [anonymous]

[cure_moonlight]

I want to.

I've attempted to...

It's just... figuring out what.

Re: [anonymous]

[uberlikehermama]

I see.

I can't really give any suggestions without knowing what you're trying to do though.

Re: [Registers as Silverwing's D-Comm]

[scrapperzen]

It sounds to me that fighting is part of the problem.

I won't dispute that there's a time and a place for conflict... but it sure sounds as though you're getting pushed further than you need to be.

If you don't want to get into it further, all I can offer is the assurance that there are other ways. And it REALLY sounds like you need one.

[darkmagicalgirl]

I know this is very easy to say, but I know how you must feel... there was once a time, where everything I tried for the sake of another person earned the same result...

... It wasn't until I let someone else into my life that I started to see it differently.

[text - anon]

[fasternlightbot]

Retrace your steps and find where it went wrong. Learn from that to do better the next time around.

Re: [Anonymous text]

[last_lombax]

What is it you want to change?